Okay... It had to happen, and it happened today. Since this is a public entry, and I really don't want to throw a negative light on the situation, I'll do my best to filter out my emotions. If I have to vomit emotions, I'll do it in private. Anyway...
This morning, I woke up and Kim (my dear mother-in-law) decided to make her distaste of my personal grooming habits (a.k.a. mohawk) apparent to everyone here. I went and asked her about it and she said I was being selfish for not taking into consideration her feelings about everything. Now... There are some things to take into consideration here:
- She had talked to me previously two times about it. First time, I told her I'd shave it off, but that I liked the way I looked better with it, than being bald. 2nd time I just basically told her I didn't want to do it.
- Today is Kim's birthday, and birthdays for her means that the entire universe revolves around her. No kidding. It's kind of ridiculous if you ask me.
- I honestly do think that I look better with a mohawk than I do bald, as does my wife. These are the only two options for today.
- Today the whole family is going to have a professional photographer take family pictures (around 6:30pm), so we are to look our best.
Taking all that into account, it became apparent that there was going to be some pretty crazy stuff going on. Both me and my mother-in-law have pretty stubborn streaks, and when I feel I'm being treated unjustly, my fangs come out pretty readily. So.... Hmmm.... Yeah...
My mother-in-law is....... well.... she is.... Kim. If you haven't read my personal journal around the time of her daughter's and my wedding, you really should. This will explain a *lot*.
So.......... I ended up talking to her about the whole mohawk thing, and my actually enjoying it, and my wife enjoying it, etc... and she said the whole "You're just being selfish" bit, and to avoid world war 3, I told her I'd do it.
So I did it.
During the whole incident, there were so many things at play, and so many emotions going on in me, it was gonna be difficult to "choose the right" as they say.
After I shaved my head and was taking a shower, I was wrestling these emotions with quite a fervor, when the following words of my wife came into my head, "Sometimes we just need to be peacemakers.
" ..... I pondered that for a couple of seconds, and then the following scripture
came into my head which states, "... and the peacemakers shall be called the children of God." A bit of research brought on this scripture
as well, and the more I thought about it... The more a peace settled over me.
This wasn't the end, though. I was seriously wrestling with all sorts of past bad feelings and misunderstanding, and all sorts of other things. However, with that scripture in mind, and a resolution to make the best out of this bad situation, I got out of the shower and met the world with my baldness and all.
One thing I have in mind, however, which just disturbs the snot out of me is that I'm 99% sure that she would not have done the same thing on my birthday should I have requested it of her. Hair style is nothing more than personal preference. My preference was a mohawk. That should not matter at all to her but....
such is life.
We'll be going to take the wonderful pictures here soon... so... we'll see how that goes.
Talk to ya later. My wife needs me.