Wed - Nov 19, 2008 : 09:39 pm
What I Miss Most
Ya know... I've told many people this, but I'm not sure I've told you. If I have, suck it up and listen to it again.
When I got married almost 6 years ago, I was preparing for the worst. People told me that marriage was a jar to the system, the knock-out punch, the "learning" experience, and many other metaphors basically meaning that it was tough.
So, when I married my sweetheart, I was expecting just that. The weird thing is - nothing changed. We still dated, we laughed, we went to school, got jobs, and, ahem, enjoyed the varous benefits of actually being married.
I really was quite surprised. The year after I got married was probably one of the best years of my life. So...
Why the tite, "What I Miss Most"?
Well.. Just because marriage wasn't a jarring experience for me (quite the contrary, really), doesn't mean that life has been all pudding cupcakes dancing on the backs of unicorns (props to ya, Steve) prancing upon fluffy clouds that line the perfect rainbow.
Nope.. Why, you ask? Well.. We had children.
Yeah. Weeks after we had our first child, I knew something was different. I need not go into the details, but holy cow. If marriage was my my perfect gleaming castle, kids are definitely the dragon living therein.
I'd have to say, with children, the thing I miss the most by a long shot isn't the personal time I no longer have, nor is it the constant repetition for my seemingly deaf children to "clean that up" or, "mind your mom", or "please come here", or "go to SLEEEEEEP!!!!"... Nope... As annoying as those are, I'd have to say the winning prize goes to:
Yup. I've forgotten what it's like to actually get a good night's rest. I know we're blessed beyond measure in that our kids are healthy, and we're doing okay financially, and we've got good parents and siblings and all that... But, man... What I wouldn't give to be able to lay my head down at night at 10:00pm and sleep for 8 straight hours. How wonderful would it be to go to sleep and not have to worry about the nightly routine of being woken up for any number of reasons. And I'm not even talking about my poor wife!
Holy cow... She gets woke up at least 3 times as often as I do. But... All in all, I'd have to say that I'm glad I had kids, but man...
...I really miss sleep.